Parashas Vayeitzei - The Difference between a Tzaddik and a Rasha

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After receiving Aisav's brachos from Yitzchak, Yaakov was advised (by Rivka) to run away so that Aisav wouldn't kill him. Hashem revealed Himself to Yaakov through a dream to show him that He would be with him every step of the way.

Yaakov made a vow, "If Hashem will be with me, and guards me on this path that I am going on, gives me bread to eat and clothing to wear... I will surely give a tenth to You." Rashi explains the line of, "And give me bread to eat..." as: 'One who must search for bread is considered abandoned', for it says, "I have never seen a righteous man forsaken (abandoned) and his children searching for bread." [1],[2]

I got a little confused after reading this Rashi, because I recall learning by the incident of the Nachash (who convinced Chava to eat from the Eitz Ha'daas); that one of the nine punishments he got for causing this sin was, "And dust you shall eat all the days of your life." [3] Everything the snake eats tastes like dust. He is provided with food wherever he goes. No worries.

Question is: Why is that a punishment? It seems like a blessing to have food whenever, wherever he is. The answer I learned: Hashem provides to people when He wants nothing to do with them. The reason why Hashem brings suffering upon us is because He wants us to talk (cry out; daven) to Him. He wants a connection with us. By the nachash, Hashem didn't want to be bothered with him, so He granted the nachash enough sustenance for the rest of his life.

Does this seem a little contradicting with the Rashi I stated above? Hashem made a promise to Yaakov that He will provide bread for him to eat, and will not forsake (abandon) him. Seems like the same thing Hashem did for the nachash.

I believe the answer is: Hashem provided for the nachash all the sustenance he needed, because Hashem didn't want to have the nachash come begging for food. That's the difference between a rasha and a tzaddik! A rasha comes to Hashem only when he needs something from Him. If he sees he is lacking, he will suddenly make believe he and Hashem are "close," and would ask for help. A tzaddik, however, goes to Hashem for whatever the situation he's in. If the tzaddik is having a bad day, he will say, "Baruch Hashem!" If he has whatever he needs, such as: food, clothing, happiness, health, parnassa, etc... He will acknowledge it all came from Hakadosh Baruch Hu, and thank Him! He doesn't only 'connect' with Hashem when something bad happens, rather at all times.

That's why Hashem provided (everyday) both the nachash and the tzaddik "bread." Because Hashem knew the tzaddik wouldn't abandon Him. He would still keep the connection and praise Him. However, by the nachash, Hashem knew he would only come to Him when he needs something, therefore He provided only to push him away.

May we always have everything we need and acknowledge that it comes from Hakadosh Baruch Hu and thank Him both for the good events that happen to us and the bad.

Have a wonderful Shabbos,
Nisso

[1] Bereishis 28:20
[2] Tehillim 36:28
[3] Bereishis 3:14

Parashas Toldos - YOU control your happiness

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'Toldos' in English means descendants. The parasha starts off by saying, "These are the descendants of Yitzchak, son of Avraham." We are soon to be introduced to two famous, (very!) individual people, Yaakov and Eisav.

Yitzchak and Rivka had been married for twenty years with no children. They both prayed to Hashem to grant them a child and were shortly answered (because of Yitzchak's prayer), when she soon got pregnant.

This pregnancy was extremely painful. She literally felt as if there was a battle going on in her womb. Whenever she would pass a Bais Midrash she would feel a force wanting to get out of her womb, or whenever she would pass a place of idol worship she would also feel a force wanting to get out. She was confused as to what was going on.

Rivka questioned, "If this is what happens when one gets pregnant, then why did I desire this?!" I want to answer: [besides the explanation Rashi [1] gave as to why Hashem answered Yitzchak's prayer over Rivka's: Yitzchak was a tzaddik, the son of a tzaddik, whereas Rivka was a tzaddekes, the daughter of a rasha."] Hashem knew she would regret it, and didn't think this gift of children should come from her prayer, rather Yitzchak's.

She visited the Bais Midrash of Shaim to inquire about the pregnancy. He prophetically told her that she was carrying twins, that she would become the mother of two great nations. Although she is carrying them both together in her womb, once they are born, the world will be too small for peace between them. Therefore it makes sense they can't sit in peace together in her womb.

Shaim then told her, "The two nations you will bear will not become great simultaneously. The rise of one will depend on the downfall of the other." Rashi says that pashut pshat is, "They will not be equally great. When one rises, the other falls."

After reading this explanation, I felt I could apply this concept onto everyday life situations.

Example: A person can't be happy and depressed at the same time. In order to decrease depression, you should add happiness to your life. It can be done in many ways: You can learn to think positively, do something productive - which makes you feel good about yourself, connect with a friend, etc...

There are times when people have wonderful days. He feels like everything is going well in his life - got nothing to complain about. He has a wonderful family, good friends, learning or business is going well, etc... However at times, he may feel like he is challenged with a test he doesn't think he can pass. The evil inclination, trying to convince him to do something he knows he will regret in the future, instantly changes his mood from happiness to sadness or worse, even depression.

Rav Zelig Pliskin, in his book called 'Happpiness', explains the 'art of happiness'. He writes, "It's important to master the skill of 're-framing'. Definition: Events, situations and occurrences in themselves do not cause you happiness or unhappiness. It is ALWAYS your personal, subjective evaluation of those events that create your emotional reaction... If you evaluate or re-frame, something as positive, you will experience happiness, joy, serenity, relief, or pleasure. It is your own way of thinking about something that creates your emotional reactions."

I find, when you leave room for the negative thoughts to pop into your head, it can be very controlling. The trick is to stop negative thoughts from popping in right away. Fill your head with positive, reassuring affirmations. By doing that, you won't have room to let the sadness, annoyance, frustration, anger, distress, or suffering 'take over' or influence the positive mind-set.

"When one rises, the other falls!" It's in OUR control to decide whether we want to let the negative emotions to take over and rule.

I give us a blessing that we should all continue to be strong and happy in whatever situations arise and to always evaluate them positively.

Have a wonderful Shabbos,
Nisso

[1] 25:21

Parashas Chayei Sarah - Go from being Cursed to Blessed !

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In this week's parasha, Avraham instructed Eliezer (his servant) to find a wife for Yitzchak. Avraham thought, "Yitzchak is getting old, and he still has no children. I think it's time for him to get married." Avraham demanded that Yitzchak marry only within his family, because they are blessed. [1] "Even though my relatives are idol worshipers, they still have potential for holiness and are capable of doing teshuva," Avraham told Eliezer. [2]

Eliezer got excited because he felt it would be amazing if Yitzchak married his daughter, but Avraham reminded him that he is a descendant of Canaan, whose family has been cursed and Yitzchak was blessed. "A cursed one and blessed one cannot unite," he told Eliezer. [3]

You might ask, "What was Eliezer thinking?! He was a slave, a Canaani! Did he actually think his daughter was worthy of marrying Avraham Avinu's son?!"

Truth be told, Eliezer wasn't a simpleton. He was a tzadik! He went from entering Avraham's home as a slave, to the status of Avraham's outstanding student who took his Torah and passed it on to others. He learned from Avraham and was also very big into chesed and hachnasas orchim. He was able to control his Yeitzer Hara like Avraham, and even resembled Avraham outwardly. [4]

As a matter of fact, by serving Avraham faithfully, Eliezer elevated himself from the category of being cursed to being blessed. That's why he had his daughter in mind to marry Yitzchak - because he thought she was blessed too. [5]

Having learned the above details, I couldn't help notice the chesed Hashem does for us:

Eliezer was cursed because he was a Canaani, however, after working hard and proving his faithfulness to Avraham, Hashem transformed the curse to a blessing. Let's take it up a notch: Let's say it was nigzar (decreed) upon us that something bad will happen (chas v'Shalom). Doing what Hashem wants from us and being His faithful children will surely take away this evil decree and bring a blessing upon us. I don't see a difference between being cursed and now blessed, to having a bad decree on us which can be changed to a good one.

When I was younger, I use to be a trouble-maker. I remember thinking, "My parents think I am a bad boy, so why not just continue being bad." It seemed like there was nothing I can do to change the way they viewed me. Of course, I wasn't exactly thinking very maturely then.

Sometimes a person thinks to himself, "I already have a bad decree on me, and there's probably nothing I can do to can change it, so I might as well continue misbehaving." OR "I am going to die someday anyways, so why not continue smoking?" - whatever the case is, there's always another option.

For those who think they have the worst 'luck' in the word, it can change. Everything is min hashemayim. It's up to us to do the Will of Hashem and be his faithful children. We see this from Eliezer who was cursed, but because of his hard work and loyalty, he was able to uproot the curse and replace it with a blessing.

May we always be showered with blessings and keep doing the Will of Hashem.

Have a wonderful Shabbos,
Nisso

[1] Bereishis Rabba 57:2
[2] Midrash HaGadol 24:3
[3] Tiferes Tzion
[4] Bereishis Rabba 59:11
[5] Tiferes Tzion

Parashas Vayera - Honor me; by being my guest !

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In this week's Parasha, we learn the importance of how to look positively at situations. I have been talking to a lot of different people in the last couple weeks, and I find that everyone has different ways of looking at the same situation.

I don't want to get into details of what our conversations consisted of. I do not want to disrespect their views because I accept their views and opinions. I did, however, find that Avraham Avinu also had his own way of looking at things. A special way:

He had just preformed his bris mila and on the third day (the day it hurts the most) he waited by the entrance of his tent in order to invite and serve guests. Even though he was in a lot of pain, the thought of 'not being able to fulfill the mitzvah of hachnasat orchim' hurts even more.

Hashem wanted him to rest and recover from the bris, but the pain of not fulfilling this mitzvah was distracting him. Hashem even brought the sun out - powerfully - in order that Avraham Avinu wouldn't be burdened with travelers. That didn't stop Avraham. When it had been a while since any travelers passed by his tent, he started to get sad. Hashem saw that not being able to serve guests was even more painful, so He sent three angels disguised as men.

There's a saying, "Guests and fish start to smell after three days." Sometimes people feel like guests either intrude, or start to get annoying after a certain amount of days. People feel like they have done so much for the guest, that they might be taking advantage of them to some extent. I've heard it many times from other people. Truth is, it depends on the person staying over. Some people just get 'too' comfortable, you feel like they will never leave.

Avraham Avinu, on the other hand, looks at it much differently than others. He tells the 'men', "I will get bread and you will sustain your hearts. Afterwards you will continue on your way because it is for this reason that you have passed by your servant."

Rashi [5:18] comments, "What does this mean, 'It is for this reason that you have passed by'."? He answers, "You have passed by for my honor, as in, 'It is a privilege to be able to serve you. You are doing me a favor, and I thank you!'"

Avraham Avinu didn't know what type of guests these men would be. He invited them wholeheartedly. His focus wasn't on 'how much will I be taken advantage of?'; 'How long are they going to be here for?'; 'How much is this going to cost me?'; or 'How much do they have to offer?' His focus was solely for the purpose to doing Hashem's mitzvah of serving guests. It was all about giving, and not taking.

That was Avraham and Sarah's midda. They were givers. When someone wants to do something so much, Hashem will make it possible. In the above case, Hashem saw how much Avraham wanted to give so much to guests. Even at a time of recovery from illness and pain, Avraham couldn't think of doing anything else but give. And so, Hashem made sure to give him the opportunity.

In the very same Parasha, Sarah gives birth to Yitzchak at a very old age - 90 years old. Everyone was talking about her, "She probably found a baby in the field and decided to keep him. It's possible it isn't even their child!" etc... [1] Hashem made Avraham and Yitzchak look exactly alike. Nobody could claim Yitzchak wasn't his child. In addition, Hashem made a miracle that all nursing mothers dried up, and Sarah had plenty of mommy's milk. Women were lining up by Sarah's tent to have their babies nurse from her. [2]

The point of bringing the above midrash was to show you the miracle Hashem did for Sarah. It was her nature to give to others, and now, she was able to provide for everyone's child. The same applies by Avraham, who wanted to continuously give - Hashem made it so that angels in human uniform would be guests by him. All this was done in order for Avraham and Sarah to do what they loved doing: GIVE.

I give us a beracha that we see situations in a different light. View them all with positive perspectives and feel optimistic about life.

Have a wonderful Shabbos,
Nisso

[1] Baba Matziah 87a
[2] Bereishis Rabba 43:13

Parashas Lech Lecha - Being Faithful to Hashem

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At the end of last week's parasha, the Torah mentions the ten generations from Noach to Avram. According to some commentaries, last week's parasha was also the beginning of Avram's ten trials (tests) by Hashem.

The generation of his time were very corrupt. There were those who rebelled against Hashem and those who completely denied His existence.

It was Avram (better known as Avraham Avinu) who brought Hashem's name back into this world. Avram did anything and everything he could do to sanctify Hashem's name. He believed that this world was so complex, there's no way it had no creator. This indeed was the first test Avram had passed, according to some commentaries.

Avram's father, Terach, had a business selling idols. At a young age, Avram convinced the customers who entered the store, that they were wasting their time buying these idols. He claimed, "Aren't you embarrassed to buy an idol which was made just yesterday by my father? You are older than the idol, and you're worshiping it?" or "You say thieves stole your idol? If your gods were unable to protect themselves, how do you expect them to protect you?!"[1]

One day, Avram decided to smash all the idols in the store while his father was away. He put the hammer besides the biggest statue and told his father, "This statue got upset at the other ones and destroyed them." Terach replied, "That's non-sense, son. You know they can't move or talk!" Avram retorted, "Think about what you just said. If that's the case, why do you even worship it?" [1]

Another story we have all heard of was when Avram was thrown into a fiery oven. In fact, that was his second test, according to some opinions: King Nimrod wanted to give Avram a second chance to worship him and his idols. All he had to do was bow down to the king and his idols. Avrom refused saying, "I will never forsake Hashem! He is the one who should be served, not a fake god like you!" [2]

Nimrod's slaves grabbed Avrom and threw him into the fire. Hashem Himself went to save him from the fire. Avrom walked out unharmed. Nimrod was speechless and decided to bow down to Avrom. "Do not bow down to me, rather to the living G-d, Creator of the Universe," Avrom said. [3]

The next (and some say the first) trial was Lech Lecha; Avrom was commanded to leave his land and travel to an unknown destination. [for more information on this test, see last year's dvar Torah: http://sharingtorah.blogspot.com/2008/11/parashas-lech-lecha.html].

Avrom had gone through a lot and sacrificed a lot on behalf of Hashem. He did not have a 'smooth-sailing' life. He put a lot of effort into what he believed in. A lot of us are afraid to stand up for what we believe in, especially if our spirituality or health is at risk.

There are people who get involved with the wrong crowds; they think it's better being involved with a certain crowd even though they speak bad about other people and steal only because it's better than having no crowd. Or they might see a friend do something terribly wrong but they're are too 'scared' or 'nervous' to tell them it's wrong because they don't want to be made fun of, or talked bad about by others.

Avrom didn't care about what others around him thought. He was disliked and bashed by everyone around him, but he didn't care. He knew he was doing the right thing by bringing awareness of Hashem's name to the world, and he wasn't going to let other people's actions influence him. Avrom was the first to initiate and maintain spirituality regardless of how many people fought against him.

We should all learn from Avraham Avinu to take religious observance to the next level; putting aside our kavod for the sake of Hashem. If there's someone who is trying to convince us to do something which might not make Hashem happy, let us stand up for ourselves and say 'no' just like Avrom did before he was thrown into the oven.

May Hashem grant us the courage to do His will and to not be influenced by others.

Have a good Shabbos,
Nisso

[1] Bereishis Rabba 38:19
[2] Midrash HaGadol 11:28
[3] Bais Hamidrash Chadra

Parashas Noach - Keeping a kesher with Hashem

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There's a lesson in Parashas Noach which I think we can all relate to in one way or another. A common example is not thanking Hashem enough for the health we have.

In other words, let's say we've been ill for days/weeks, we cry to Hashem, "Please heal us!" However, when we feel much better, we intend to stop talking to Him. When things are going really well for us, we intend to forget who is behind it and act as if it's naturally the way the world works.

In this week's parasha, Hashem brought upon the world a mabul (flood). The cause for this was the life-style before the mabul which was similar to life on Gan Eden. Life was great!

A couple examples the meforshim bring: Human beings possessed strength which did not weaken once they reached an old age, rather they only got stronger. Ie: They were able to uproot full size cedar trees, or they considered lions (and other scary beasts) harmless as flies. [1] Another example was that a newborn child was immediately able to stand, walk and talk. Additionally, no child would die in the same life-time as their parents or grandparents.[2]

Other examples given: They worked their fields once every forty years, because their fields produced a sufficient amount of crops for no one to ever go hungry. There was no change in seasons. The weather was beautiful all the time. [3] And the biggest one of all; they knew nothing about suffering of any kind! [4]

Since everything was perfect, people everywhere questioned, "Why do we need to give authority to Hashem? We don't need His help anymore! We've got food and water to last us forever, we don't get ill, and there's NOTHING else we need from Him."

Can you imagine saying that to your parent? They've done so much for us, but now that we're all taken care of we don't need the people who brought us into this world?!! It's no wonder why Hashem chose to destroy the corrupted people. But as always, Hashem is merciful, which is why he instructed Noach to build an Ark and to save the human race. [5]

Chazal say the reason why Hashem brings afflictions upon us is because we are lacking in communication with Him. He wants us to talk to him.

I remember when I was younger, I had a friend who came from money - an extremely wealthy family. I once told her how lucky she was because she got money whenever she wanted, she had very nice clothing, a live-in maid, etc... Life seemed perfect. One day this person started crying to me saying, "You always thought I was lucky. And I always wanted to tell you this -- I would rather be in your life position than mine! Yea, it's nice, I don't clean my own room, and have lots of clothing, but the thing I want most I don't have!" I was a little confused, so I asked what she meant. She continued, "My father tries getting me out of his way by giving me money. He always tells me to go shopping or go to the movies just so that I'm not home - 'in his face.' I can tell you from experience, I would much rather have a father than wealth!"

After she told me that, I had a different perspective on things. It helped me realize how lucky I was, not her! We all need our parents. They are our guides in life, our role-models. Hashem is the opposite of this girl's father. Hashem wants a kesher with us. He wants us to talk to him. If not, He has no choice but to pull us towards Him by afflicting us.

I give us a bracha that we realize the good Hashem does for us and that we should always have Hashem in our minds. Whether things seem to be going bad or good for us, we should always continue to talk to Him.

Have a good Shabbos,
Nisso

[1] Bereishis Rabba 34:13
[2] Bereishis Rabba 36:1
[3] Midrash Tanchuma Bereishis 40
[4] Midrash HaGadol 6:4
[5] Sinhedrin 108

Parashas Bereishis - Loose Lips Sink Ships

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Woah! Sefer Bereshis - It's packed with a lot of fun stories and lessons. This is going to be my second year writing. I am very excited and again I want to thank you subscribers for giving me the drive to continue writing.

In this week's parasha, there's an extremely life-threatening lesson I hope we will be able to work on this year. It's something that doesn't pop up once a year, month, or week. It's something to be worked on everyday. It's something we can't run away from; rather, something we can prevent.

Anyone who knows me, knows what I am talking about: the power of speech.

When Hashem created Adam v'Chava, He told them they may help themselves to anything in the fields with the exception of one tree, The Eitz Hada'as. Hashem warned them, "...for on the day you eat from that tree, you shall surely die!"

Hashem gave the Snake the power of words and the ability to walk upright in order to serve mankind. [1] The problem is, those powers were used against us. The Nachash convinced Chava to eat from the Eitz Hada'as, and death was then introduced - for the first time - to this world.

You always hear exaggerations; lashon hara can cause so much harm! Destroy shidduchim, family, business... It can even kill. Unfortunately, this is NOT an exaggeration, and we have this week's parasha to prove it.

The question is always asked, "...but the Snake didn't really speak lashon hara, he just lied! Lashon hara is saying something negative which is also the truth. So really, lashon hara wasn't what brought death to this world."

In Sefer Chofetz Chaim [2], Rav Yisroel Meir writes, "It's forbidden to say something bad about a friend even if it's 100% true! The sin is called, Lashon Hara. An even worse prohibition is saying something false about someone. That is called Motzei Shem Rah - bringing out a bad name."

'Motzei shem rah' is under the category of Lashon Hara. There are lots of sub-categories such as: motzei shem rah, rechillus, api t'laseh, etc...

The Nachash enticed Chava to eat from the tree by telling her, "Hashem doesn't want you eating from this tree, because that's where He got all His power from. He doesn't want any competition and therefore prohibited you from eating it." Then the Nachash pushed Chava onto the tree making her touch it (after she claimed it was 'forbidden to touch'). The tree wasn't forbidden to touch, however - although that's what Adam told her in order to keep her away from the tree.

Obviously this tree isn't where Hashem got His powers from. The Nachash lied in order to convince Chava to err. So the truth is, death came to this world because of motzei shem rah; a form of Lashon Hara.

Perhaps we can try to prolong each other's lives by refraining from evil words. Let's be known as "Hashem's children"and bring life instead of death.

Have a wonderful Shabbos and Shana Tova,
Nisso

[1] Maharsha; Sinhedrin 59
[2] Hilchos Lashon Hara: Klal 1 Halacha 1